With the cinematic release of 50 Shades of Grey, there is a renewed interest in having conversations about sexuality. Every time a person opens up their Flipbook App they will see an article about the movie, sexual identity, porn, and sexual satisfaction. As a church, and a Christian organization it is good to see so many articles centered on the dangers of unhealthy sexual relationships and the dangers of the porn industry.
For a great blog full of amazing statistics, checkout this article by Pastor Peter Haas http://www.peterhaas.org/?p=1470
An amazing blog on the dangers of how subtle sin can be, http://bwliving.blogspot.com/2012/08/fried-green-tomatoes.html
It’s not just the Christian world that understands the dangers of porn. Checkout this article published in GQ http://www.gq.com/blogs/the-feed/2013/11/10-reasons-why-you-should-quit-watching-porn.html
The reality that we live in a sinful world is known all too well, and it is the responsibility of the church to be a light into the darkness of a sinful world. Matthew 5:16 “In the same way, let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven.” There is no question that we, as Christians, need to take this responsibility seriously. But many times we get seriously messed up in our responsibility. In our passion to attack the sin, we attack the sinner. We want to vanquish the darkness by vanquishing the person living in the darkness.
Take a moment to see how Jesus responded to someone living a sinful life.
3 The teachers of the law and the Pharisees brought in a woman caught in adultery. They made her stand before the group 4 and said to Jesus, “Teacher, this woman was caught in the act of adultery. 5 In the Law Moses commanded us to stone such women. Now what do you say?” 6 They were using this question as a trap, in order to have a basis for accusing him. But Jesus bent down and started to write on the ground with his finger. 7 When they kept on questioning him, he straightened up and said to them, “Let any one of you who is without sin be the first to throw a stone at her.” 8 Again he stooped down and wrote on the ground.
9 At this, those who heard began to go away one at a time, the older ones first, until only Jesus was left, with the woman still standing there. 10 Jesus straightened up and asked her, “Woman, where are they? Has no one condemned you?”
11 “No one, sir,” she said. “Then neither do I condemn you,” Jesus declared. “Go now and leave your life of sin.”
How did Jesus respond to this woman that was living a life of sin? He showed love and then He spoke love.
Show Love – The first thing inclination of the religious leaders was to accuse her and condemn her, to vanquish the person living in darkness. But Jesus took a different approach. His first inclination was to meet her needs and to show her love. What was her immediate need? To have her life spared. Jesus took the first step by showing her love. This is just one of many examples of how often Jesus met the needs of person that He encountered. Our first inclination should be to follow the example of Jesus and show love and kindness to the world around us.
Speak Love – Jesus didn’t simply dismiss her after he saved her life. He had clearly established a relationship with this woman. He had already showed her amazing grace and mercy, and then He spoke undeniable truth to her. “Go now and leave your life of sin.” His desire wasn’t to vanquish the person living in the darkness, but to vanquish the darkness living inside the person. Having a mindset of showing love to someone doesn’t water down the holy life that God has called us to live, but someone will hear the truth from someone they trust much more than they will hear it from someone with whom they have no relationship. It’s the old adage, “People don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care.”
There is a great opportunity for many Christians to have a healthy conversation regarding Biblical sexuality. It is very important to remember to Show Love and Speak Love during these conversations. Be encouraged to live out 1 John 4:7-12 and Love in a World of Grey.
Let love shine!